A year ago I thought I was going to live in a hospital for the rest of my life & then suddenly, dramatically drop dead. My body was chucking me into severe sepsis every few weeks, I’d just about survive and it’d hit all over again. As my doctor put it, “this is your life now”.
Fast forward to now and jeez. In all of my greatest hopes and dreams, I’d never of expected to be where I am now. Out of hospital (generally!), no serious infections in almost a year and with a brand new Hickman line keeping me nourished & able to live a life that actually has some semblance of a life.
Doesn’t that mean I should stop writing about being a sick gal as I’m not one anymore? Yes, and no. I feel in a really tricky situation between “I don’t want anybody to ever associate me with my illness ever” and “okay, things are actually not perfect and I’m struggling in different ways now”. When I was in hospital, it was fine! My purpose was to be sick. That’s why I was there, that’s what I did. Now I’m piecing my life back together and making it as fulfilling as I can, but I’m building it back together with misshapen pieces.
I’m a different person to when I first got severely ill (and thank god for that or else I wouldn’t of gotten through!). I face life completely differently to how I used to, and dare I say to how most people my age do. When my life is ‘boring’ (ie. nothing terrible is happening), I am so, so bloody happy. The small things mean so much more (gah, so cheesy) – but it’s so true. And when bad things do happen, like having my jaw wired shut which happened a month or so back, I always know that bad things pass and that’s how I get through it. I’m content.
But, the cracks are still so visible. I’m still physically attached to a bag of IV nutrition for 14 hours a day, I still can’t stand for more than 10-20 seconds and I’m still in such unrelenting pain. However, these things aren’t generally what hold me back. It’s still the after effects of the trauma of last year that make me struggle mentally. I’m doing so well, but everyday I’m afraid it’ll all come tumbling down. I am scarred from the treatment of doctors and will avoid seeking assistance unless absolutely necessary. I still burst into tears when I think about how I was treated and I honestly don’t know if that’ll ever stop.
I’m getting there, though. And to celebrate, I’m getting a lotus flower tattoo in my ankle tomorrow! There’s a really lovely poem by Madisen Kuhn about lotus flowers & growing through dirt – and I think it sums up my situation really nicely.
I am so, so grateful to have this opportunity at living my life. To have lovely family and friends. To have the freedom to do as much as I can manage. To be able to make the absolute best of a not-ideal situation. I got this.